Friday, November 21, 2008

One of those forwarded quizzes...Tis the Season!

I got this from my friend, Wanda, to fill out. I almost never do these things because they usually promise me that if I will do it that I will meet my true love by Friday and if I don't I will die a horrible death by next Tuesday. (really...no joke..."we knew this boy in Indiana who didn't forward it and was found under his bed killed by a clown doll"...whatever.) But I figured this would be a good way to begin the holiday season...so here is "the forward quiz"

Welcome to the Christmas edition of getting to know your friends. Okay, here's what you're supposed to do, and try not to be a SCROOGE!!! Just copy (not forward) this entire email and paste into a new e-mail that
you can send. Change all the answers so that they apply to you. Then send this to a whole bunch of people you know, INCLUDING the person that
sent it to you......Tis the Season!


1. Wrapping paper or gift bags?
It depends on what people gave me last year…I re-use the bags. “El-cheapo”


2. Real tree or Artificial?
I like the smell of the real tree but the convenience of the artificial…so I put up the artificial and light a candle.


3. When do you put up the tree?
The day after Thanksgiving…major big tradition…then we eat Taco Soup on the Christmas china.

4. When do you take the tree down? The day after Epiphany

5. Do you like eggnog? I cannot convince myself to drink something with raw eggs…sorry.

6. Favorite gift received as a child?
A Baby Alive…but I put milk in her bottle and when she drank it soured inside and she smelled really bad…but I still loved her.


7. Hardest person to buy for?
What’s hard to buy…give everyone a book!

8. Easiest person to buy for?
Me

9.Do you have a nativity scene? Have several…my favorite one is a toy set that we got when the kids were little…Erik chewed off one of the shepherd’s feet but it’s still a treasure

10. Mail or email Christmas cards?
Gasp…do people EMAIL Christmas cards? I do those wonderfully impersonal letters…but I try to write something on the bottom of each.

11. Worst Christmas gift you ever received?
2 shirts that were the same…I tried to give one to a girl in the neighborhood when her house burned down but my step-mother told me that was an “ungrateful thing to do” (give away a gift) so she took it away. I found it in her closet (still had the tags) when she died 22 years later. Amazing!

12.Christmas Movie? It’s A Wonderful Life (Christmas Story is a close runner-up…I love the part where Ralphie goes to see Santa)

13. When do you start shopping for Christmas? The day after Christmas when all the stuff is on clearance


14. Have you ever recycled a Christmas present?
Ummm…yes…but please don’t tell my step-mother when you get to Heaven.

15. Favorite thing to eat at Christmas?
The fancy chocolates that I get every year…I make them last at least until March

16. Lights: Clear or Multicolored? I like the kind that work the first time you put them up

17. Favorite Christmas song?
Hmmm…I LOVE Christmas music…this is a toughie…Probably “Thou Didst Leave Thy Throne”

18. Travel at Christmas or stay home?
I like to be home at Christmas…I think it comes from being a child of divorce and being in the middle of custody arrangements at the holidays…I like knowing that I can just stay home if I want to. SO THERE!


19. Can you name all of Santa's reindeer's?
I just tried and couldn’t…Have you heard the great classic carol “Leroy, the Redneck Reindeer”? It’s wonderful…right up there with “Thou Didst Leave Thy Throne.”

20. Angel on the tree top or a star?
A big shimmery bow with long ribbons

21. Open the presents Christmas Eve or morning?
Both; we open a few Christmas Eve and then play with them and then finish up on Christmas morning

22. Most annoying thing about this time of the year? People corrupting other people’s children by sending them Christmas music BEFORE Thanksgiving (you know who you are!!!)

23. Favorite ornament, theme, or color? Angels…and the homemade ones my kids make


24. Favorite for Christmas dinner?
Slow-cooked brisket, cheesy potatoes, sweet potato pie, cranberry salad (with strawberries because the cranberries are too strong)


25. What do you want for Christmas this year?
To enjoy my family for the remaining years that I have them


Ruthie o

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Leadership Lessons from the Recent Presidential Process

I have been involved in a Leadership Summit group since July with my work with Lutheran Services. I've been thinking about some of the things that we are learning as we study "The Leadership Challenge" and how it relates to what we've been watching over the past few months in the presidential race. I don't usually comment much on politics but here are some observations (with thanks to some thoughts from Kevin Eikenberry's leadership principles):

1. Development of future leaders must become a priority of any organization. Anybody who has studied leadership knows that this is fundamental. And yet...each time another election rolls around both of our national parties seems to struggle to produce one leader that unites the party from the beginning. Instead, we see a large group of small fish fighting over who gets to be the big fish in the pond.

2. For any organization to truly succeed its members must be "on the same page...at the same time." We have talked about how our country is divided and yet our two parties seem to be as divided as our country. As an Independent, I watched the two major parties produce candidates that tore each other apart and then, after the nomination was sealed, tried to convince me that "this person (whom I publicly tore to pieces last week) is now the best hope for our country." If any other organization ran its business like that it would lose the trust of its customer base very quickly. True leaders recognize that the competition is not internal...it is external. Every moment that we spend in hostile competition with our colleagues is a moment that remains undevoted to the true purpose of the existence of the organization. In my area of work with non-profits and churches, this is an area that is causing us as much damage as it did our political parties.

3. Leaders know that they must create safe opportunities for people to practice, grow and to fail. I have come to admire Sarah Palin over the past few months. Here was a lady with definite strengths in public speaking and presentation; yet many felt that she did not seem to have been adequately prepared for someone like Katie Couric. There were discussions, at least in the media, that the RNC was considering not letting Sarah take on engagements that would not portray her in the best light. Nonsense! If you have placed someone in that position you must be willing to give them the tools and the opportunities to grow into that position and create an atmosphere where there is safety, even in failure. Unfortunately, our country does not seem willing to allow people to spread their wings...and then fall. We have created a culture of vultures circling the skies waiting for their next meal. Personally, I liked Ms. Palin very much and thought she added to McCain's ticket.

4. Leaders know that the success of their vision for their organization is more valuable than their own personal success. This is an area that I think George W. Bush did well during this process. He knew that his own unpopularity made him a possible detriment to his party's candidate; and therefore, he went about doing his job as president and didn't spend an inordinate amount of time on the campaign trail. There comes a time for us as leaders that we must realize that a part of our job is to train someone else to be ready to take our job...and to know how to graciously turn over the reins. There are some who will hold on to their own power so long that they become an embarrasment and a detriment to the vision of their organization.

I am praying that, as I seek to develop my own leadership abilities so that I can influence people to grow in grace and truth, that I will learn from those around me...in the areas where we do well and in the areas where we still have need of improvement.

Until Heaven...we're all in this together!

Monday, November 10, 2008

bittersweet thoughts

What a time it has been since I last posted! I have spent the last week fighting a bronchial infection and finally gave up the fight last Thursday and just went to bed! Now I'm back up...but something happens to a house when momma is down...so there's plenty of work to do!

The election has come and gone. Come next January we will have a new president. According to Scripture, we are to pray for those in authority and show respect for their office. Let's do that whether we voted for him or not. I cannot imagine filling that office at this time in history. The Bible tells me that the heart of the king is in the hands of God and I will trust that.

Today is a bit of a bittersweet day - little V who has lived with us since he was 8 months old is leaving for his adoptive home. This is a good thing since he will be able to be with a forever family and they are also taking his older sister who is 5 so that they will stay together. HOORAY! He is such a precious little fellow that he will be a blessing to their family even though he has developed in to a VERY active toddler.

But it is bittersweet for our family...especially my girls who have become very attached to him. We come into foster care knowing that the vision that God has given us with this ministry is to strengthen families who may be struggling and assist them in growing into a more healthy family unit. In doing this, I really like to get to know the birth families and spend time with them. After all, our community is only as strong as its families.

But sometimes, as in V's case, things don't work out for him to go home. I am thankful that there are those families who are willing to open their hearts and homes to children in crises and give them that forever family.

We all work together in this system: foster families who provide a family setting for children and work to get them back home and families who commit to raising those children when they don't go back.

Either way it is an adventure...I thank God for the opportunity that He has given me to reach into the lives of the children in my community...even though sometimes it is bittersweet!

Hang in there! We're all in this together!

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Man jumps off bridge; leaves note for Obama

Allright - I think today's post will be a rant:

I try to keep up with some of the happenings in my home state of Texas...and this one is just sad.

Yesterday (October 31, 2008) a 52 year old man jumped off the "Spaghetti Bowl" (this is a place where several highway interchanges meet and they usually stack up over each other) in El Paso and left behind a note to Barack Obama saying "Obama - Please take care of my family."

I don't know anything about this man (his name hasn't even been released), nor do I normally comment on things like this because of the pain that people are experiencing at the time. Typically prayer and support are the order of the day and I truly hope that this family is receiving that. I have buried family members who died at their own hand and I know the pain, confusion and guilt that it brings so please don't write me that I have no compassion.

But here's where this story frustrates me: What a sad day when a husband and father feels so lost and incapable that he feels free to remove himself from the lives of his wife and children and turn them over to the care of big government. Is this the end result thinking of socialism - "I refuse to take responsibility for my family - that's why the government exists." Here's a thought: It's NOT the government's responsibility to take care of our families - that responsibility belongs to us. It doesn't take a village to raise a child - it takes a family. The thing that we see across our country that so scares and saddens me is that many of our moms and dads are willing to stop doing what moms and dads need to do and capitulate that responsibility to someone else.

Yes, sometimes we need other people to help us out in hard times but I know that as a mom when it comes to the care of my family "The Buck Stops Here." This is my home, my husband, and my kids...and it's my job to take care of them to the best of my ability and with the help of God.

Just my two-cents worth.